We are not Robots

We are humans. Not robots. We will always have human reactions to our kid’s behaviors, no matter how much mind management we practice doing. But it’s still worth the practice. We don’t actually want to handle every situation perfectly; that would look like a creepy Stepford Wife! But it is worth failing, learning, trying again, failing again, learning something else, failing again, taking on step forward, a couple back, and trying again to keep stepping forward.

So we didn’t show up as the perfectly put together Mom we think we should be, so what? What are we making that mean? That we’re a terrible person? That we aren’t cut out for this gig? That we’re screwing up our kids? Are these judgements of ourselves helping us become better? Never! WE CANNOT HATE OURSELVES BETTER! EVER!!!

If we make a mistake, we can learn from how AI robots handle mistakes. They learn from them. They use the data to make a different decision next time. And that’s how they keep evolving. Us too. Instead of beating ourselves up, we can look at our actions objectively and compassionately find what the thoughts and feelings were that led to that action.

Then we can pick apart those beliefs and see if we really want to keep thinking them. We can change our brains, our patterns, our behaviors. But not if we don’t look at where we are now and figure out the why. Then we can reprogram ourselves to not make that mistake as often and eventually maybe even not ever again. Eventually.

But for now, embrace that you are human. It’s awesome to not be a robot!