Love Yourself

We talk here a lot about using self compassion and grace for yourself to drop the guilt and shame. And to be able to do that, we need to take a step back and examine our relationship with ourself. A relationship with anyone is basically just our thoughts about that other person. So what are your thoughts about yourself? Your feelings come from your thoughts. So if you are thinking negatively about yourself, you are going to feel negatively, and have a negative relationship with yourself. If you think loving thoughts to and about yourself, you can feel love towards yourself and I think that is the best fuel for change. You don’t need to wait till you’re perfect to love yourself. Or you’ll never get there. And you’ll miss out on a lifetime of feeling good. Cause love feels awesome. And we don’t need to wait for others to love us either, we can’t actually feel their love anyway. We feel our own feelings. So you don’t need others to love you, you just need to love yourself by thinking kind and loving thoughts about yourself.

Think of all the people you love. Are they perfect? Of course not. We usually don’t have nearly the ridiculous expectations of other people that we have for ourselves. Why is that? It doesn’t have to be that way. It just takes some conscious thinking. So think about how you are thinking about yourself today. What does your self talk sound like? Are you beating yourself up for being a human all day? How does that make you feel and then how do you show up driven by those feelings? Then try on some loving thoughts and see how that changes your whole way of being. It’s like a magic pill. Love yourself. and that’ll drop the guilt. You’ll be too busy feeling love that you won’t need to feel the self judgement and shame. Yay!