Peace

I help moms of young children find more peace in their parenting by self regulation. This means that when we feel our own big emotions, we know how to handle them and can actually experience peace at the same time as the complete range of all the emotions to have a full and rich human experience. It is possible to accept, embrace, and feel the full range of emotions peacefully. When we fight against the reality of what we are feeling, we accentuate the negative feelings and pile them on top of each other. But if we accept what we are feeling, feel it, and seek to hear the message of it, we can feel peace with any emotion. Our feelings come from our thoughts. So if we are thinking about how annoying it is that the kids spilled cereal on our carpet that we just vacuumed five minutes ago, we will feel frustrated. When we beat ourselves up for feeling frustrated, we could feel shame, regret, or self-loathing on top of the frustration which is what builds up into rage. We can do the “thought swap” to not feel frustrated in the first place, or we can accept that we want to feel frustrated when the work we just did, gets destroyed moments after we finished it and think a thought like “of course, I’m frustrated, I’m human and I have human emotions and there’s nothing wrong with feeling frustrated”. Then we can feel peace about feeling frustrated. 

Life coaching is not about thought swapping constantly all day to feel good. It’s also learning to feel peaceful about feeling any and everything we choose to feel. We don’t actually want to feel happy all the time. That would be really weird and robotic. I don’t think we want to spend the day with our littles in a perfect state of zen peace but we can learn to have the self compassion that leads to peaceful parenting. I can teach you how. Email me for a free consultation so that we can look at your specific situations and I can help you layer peace instead of shame on top of all your feelings. It really is the trick that makes all the difference!