Mommy Does NOT “Make” you Happy
Contrary to popular belief, and contrary to this cutie’s onsie, Mommy doesn’t actually “make” her happy!
If you’ve read any of these blogs, you know that I subscribe to the idea that feelings come from your thoughts! So if my baby is happy, she is thinking a thought that is making her feel the emotion of happy. I am her neutral circumstance. I can do things that make it easier for her to think thoughts that generate happiness, but her own happiness is up to her.
That really feels like a stretch when it comes to helpless infants, but it really is true that feelings come from thoughts and the sooner you accept that about your kids, the sooner you will relieve yourself of a lot of unnecessary stress in your Mom life!
Your feelings come from your thoughts so you can control your own happiness. You can not control the happiness of those around you. This is a revolutionary concept that can take years of coaching and retraining your brain to really get. You cannot control the feelings of people around you! You cannot make your kids happy. And next week we’ll talk about how that is not even your job! So when you drop that from your to do list, imagine how much bandwidth you can clear up to do things that are in your control! Like making yourself happy. You’re the only one who can.
Sorry baby, your shirt has got it wrong. I do not make you happy. You may think that but as long as you do, you’re giving me all of your power. And you’re in for a lot of sadness and frustration about the sadness cause I can’t do it. Only you can control your own emotions with your own thoughts.
Try it on. See if you get the life altering results like I did. and do every time i remind my brain of this. And hit me up here to help you cause this is work worth doing! And it’s a lot easier to do with a trained coach who can walk you through how. Let’s do it! Give yourself back the power to make yourself happy.
Sorry, Baby, Your shirt is a LIE!
