Drop the Mom Shame
When I say that we’re going to drop the mom guilt, that’s not exactly accurate. There are definitely healthy amounts of guilt that can be useful for us but Mom Shame is not ever probably useful so lets drop that part! What’s the difference? According to Shame expert and researcher Brene Brown, shame means that something is wrong with you. Guilt means that you did something wrong. Shame means that you are wrong. So yes, we are imperfect and we will always “get it wrong” but that does not mean that we are wrong. We are perfectly imperfect and it’s not a problem. Shame keeps us stuck and spinning. We cannot beat ourselves up better. We don’t need to wallow in the shame. We need to get curious, compassionate, and give ourselves some grace to drop the shame. We can use all the tools we’ve already discussed this month when the shame comes up. In the heat of the moment we feel the bodily sensations of that emotion. Then we analyze the thoughts that created it and drop those. Acknowledge that our brain is bringing them up for a reason but when you look at them consciously, you can decide that you don’t need to continue to believe those thoughts and purposefully believe something with more grace and compassion instead. So, drop the Mom Shame! You’ve got this Momma!!
