“Thought Swapping”
K so now that you know that your feelings come from your thoughts, the equation to “drop the mom guilt” should be pretty obvious. If guilt is a feeling, you just need a new thought in order to feel a new feeling. Yep! That’s it! Poof! Like magic, the mom guilt is gone.
So, what would you rather feel instead of guilty about the way you showed up with your kids yesterday? What do you need to think in order to feel that way? Once you’ve got that figured out, then you’re on your way!
After we learn that feelings come from thoughts and that we have control of our thoughts so we can feel anything we want to, we can do what I call “thought swapping”. So try that today. Now that you’ve identified the thought causing the guilt, see if you can come up with a different thought that will make you feel something a little more useful today. Sometimes it’s that easy. Like magic. But sometimes all of this is just a little more easily said than done and so come back tomorrow and I’ll give you some more tricks for when this doesn’t quite “work”.
