Shame Vs Worth

Shame says that there is something wrong with you. Is there? My vote is no, but if you don’t believe that, then it’ll be hard to drop the mom shame. So let’s look into it further. Really think about what you believe about this. I think that we are all 100% valuable just because we are. God made us and there is not one single son or daughter of God who is more valuable than another. We don’t earn our value by anything we do or don’t do. We just come to earth with our 100% worth in tact and there is nothing we can do to change that. He loves us perfectly and with no conditions. So in that case, no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

So why is it as natural as breathing to think that there is something wrong with us? That comes as part of our-temporary- human condition. In order to progress, we needed to come to this fallen world and be tested in imperfect bodies with natural man temptations. We are here to learn and progress. So although we are 100% valuable and worthy, we still have a lot of room for improvement and growth. That is the dissonance that we feel in this paradox. So, yes, we are not perfect. We never will be in this life. But we are perfectly imperfect. It is all part of the plan to be flawed at this point in our development.

So accepting both sides of that coin is what will really help us progress. If we just focus on our mistakes and short comings, we stay stuck in the muck. If we just rely on our inherent worth and never try to improve, we also do not progress. So a healthy balance of accepting both helps us move forward. There is opposition in all things. We will always have a 50/50 experience no matter what. We’re never going to show up perfectly but we still keep trying without shaming ourselves in the process and that will get us the progress that we are hard wired to need.