Identity as a Mom

We wear a lot of hats. And the way we perceive how we are “doing” with each of those hats is one of things I will work on with you as your coach. You are a Mom. Of course, that’s the “hat” we talk about the most here but there is also your role as a wife, sister, friend, neighbor, employee, the list goes on and on.

What about your role just as you? How is your relationship with yourself? How do you perceive that you are doing just as a person in this world? What are your thoughts about yourself? How do those thoughts make you feel and how do you show up when you are thinking and feeling that way? This is important work because it will all lead to your current results. And if you don’t like where you are at, we can change it by identifying thoughts that are not serving your highest good.

Now, as we explore this sort of thing, I am frequently surprised to find that they way clients rate themselves in general is very similar to the way they rate themselves as a mom also. Interesting. Ive admittedly done the same thing and in digging deeper, we always find that our identity as a Mom is intertwined with our identity and our worth as a person. Why is this? And is it serving us?

If you rated yourself on a scale of 1-10 on how your marriage is going, what would you give yourself. How about any of your other hats? On a scale of 1-10, how are you doing in general. And is that number the exact same as the rate you would give yourself as a mom? Isn’t that fascinating?

If I think that I’m a great mom, i also feel like i’m just generally killing it in life. Do you relate? And if that was the case, then great!

But the problem is that most of us are beating ourselves up about the way we are showing up as a mom. And therefore, we are a terrible person. That’s the problem! That is why I am so adamant about you believing that you are a good mom! Because you are a good person! And if the two are so intertwined, then at least lets use that to increase our perception of ourselves instead of as fuel on the self critical fire.

You are an incredible person. You are not perfect, no one is. You are a complicated, intricately designed hot mess and amazing all mixed into one. Its the way it’s supposed to be. Keep trudging, Momma! And do not let any of your imperfections make you believe anything negative about yourself on an identity level. It won’t help you change. It’ll just keep you down.

We need to elevate your thoughts about yourself in order to change any behaviors you’re not loving. I can show you how! Your new you is crying to be reinvented. Let’s get started today!!