Accepting What Is
I am going to be induced today. This is a big deal for me. I’ve never done that before. Because I never wanted to and i still don’t want to. So last night I was in a lot of resistance to the idea and feeling a lot of apprehension. So I got coached by one of my amazing coaches and she helped me work on actually believing the affirmation that “I accept whatever path my birthing takes”. Cause I was not at all accepting this new turn to my plan. I was upset that my plan was not working as I’d been preparing for and thinking that was keeping me from preparing for this new plan.
So we went back to one of the coaching principles that i’ve been working on a lot the past year plus. Accepting what is. Some people hate the phrase “it is what it is” but it’s true. The C or the circumstance is neutral which means it just is. It’s not good or bad. It just is. Until we have thoughts about it. A lot of people have different thoughts than i do about inducing labor. It’s not big deal. It is their plan a. By the end of my coaching session, my thought was that its going to be exciting to see what this new adventure entails. That’s quite the jump from where my thoughts had started but step one was processing emotion. Like we’ve talked so much about. I needed to feel my feelings of apprehension and even annoyance and irritation. I needed to receive the messages that those thoughts were sending me and accept where I was in order to move on to a new belief.
Accepting what is does not mean that you love it or what to stay there but it’s a very important first step otherwise you are stuffing and resisting and probably avoiding and buffering also. After really reaching a place of acceptance, then you can move on to change. So if you are stuck feeling guilty, sit with it. Get curious about all the thoughts that are causing it. Don’t be in a rush to get rid of it, it’s not an emergency to to fixed, remember. One really big reason why we get stuck in our ways even though we try so hard to “white knuckle” our way into different behavior is missing this step. So acceptance with self compassion, grace, and curiosity. Then we can move on to believing new things and showing up differently.
Wish me and new baby Good Luck today!!
